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Both partners love spending quality time with each other engaged in deep conversation, playing, or doing just about anything.
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Both partners talk about any problems easily and maturely because conflict, drama, and bickering just do not happen.
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Both partners are excited and joyful about meeting each other's needs and wants without it feeling like work.
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Both partners love each other deeply, can't get enough of each other physically, and have no interest in anyone except each other.
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Both partners accept each other fully for who the other is, and it feels easy and comfortable to 'be yourself' without judgment.
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Both partners are motivated to grow together and be the best that they can possibly be out of love for each other.
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And this dynamic doesn't end after the 'honeymoon period' wears off. It just continues to get better indefinitely!
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To create the dream relationship, you need polarity.
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Polarity is the relationship gamechanger you've been searching for.
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Masculine and feminine polarity is when a man and woman polarize themselves into their gender specific energies and roles in the relationship. When this is done properly, the relationship will look like a perfectly executed salsa dance, where a man leads, and his woman follows. And both partners get their needs met. But to get there, at least one partner must consciously work on polarizing themselves. Only one partner needs to purposefully do the work for their partner to begin reflecting them and naturally do the work because of their partner's actions.
A man polarizes himself by becoming increasingly masculine. He becomes a better leader, more emotionally centered, more devotional to his woman's needs and feelings, and more assertive in his boundaries and vision for the relationship. He must learn to always lead his woman. Every step of the way from the moment they meet until the moment they part ways or die. He leads every conflict to resolution. He makes all the decisions. He sets all of the expectations. He asserts the boundaries. He is emotionally centered and is a woman’s rock. And a devoted masculine man does all of these things, but he does so with full consideration of his woman’s needs. He leads for her. Which means he will always take his woman’s feelings into account, and when appropriate, her opinions. When a man polarizes himself in this healthy way, a woman feels safe to become increasingly feminine and submit to his leadership.
A woman polarizes herself by becoming increasingly feminine. She becomes better at letting go of control, more emotionally expressive, more receptive to her man's gifts, and more radiant and joyful in her energy. She is always following her man. Every step of the way from the moment they meet until the moment they part ways or die. She respects all of her man’s decisions. She agrees to all of her man’s expectations. She respects her man’s boundaries. She does as she is led to do. She trusts her man’s lead. A radiant feminine woman does all of these things, but also has the self-worth and maturity to vulnerably express her feelings and needs without leading her man to do anything. She speaks up for her needs, but without asserting herself. She also is willing and capable of not submitting to any leadership that doesn’t consider her needs. She knows she deserves to receive the absolute best leadership and will not dishonor herself by submitting to less. When a woman polarizes herself in this healthy way, a man is inspired to strengthen himself for her with devoted leadership.
A man polarizes himself by becoming increasingly masculine. He becomes a better leader, more emotionally centered, more devotional to his woman's needs and feelings, and more assertive in his boundaries and vision for the relationship. He must learn to always lead his woman. Every step of the way from the moment they meet until the moment they part ways or die. He leads every conflict to resolution. He makes all the decisions. He sets all of the expectations. He asserts the boundaries. He is emotionally centered and is a woman’s rock. And a devoted masculine man does all of these things, but he does so with full consideration of his woman’s needs. He leads for her. Which means he will always take his woman’s feelings into account, and when appropriate, her opinions. When a man polarizes himself in this healthy way, a woman feels safe to become increasingly feminine and submit to his leadership.
A woman polarizes herself by becoming increasingly feminine. She becomes better at letting go of control, more emotionally expressive, more receptive to her man's gifts, and more radiant and joyful in her energy. She is always following her man. Every step of the way from the moment they meet until the moment they part ways or die. She respects all of her man’s decisions. She agrees to all of her man’s expectations. She respects her man’s boundaries. She does as she is led to do. She trusts her man’s lead. A radiant feminine woman does all of these things, but also has the self-worth and maturity to vulnerably express her feelings and needs without leading her man to do anything. She speaks up for her needs, but without asserting herself. She also is willing and capable of not submitting to any leadership that doesn’t consider her needs. She knows she deserves to receive the absolute best leadership and will not dishonor herself by submitting to less. When a woman polarizes herself in this healthy way, a man is inspired to strengthen himself for her with devoted leadership.
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I understand. When most relationships range somewhere between mediocre to complete train-wreck, it's hard to imagine something so good. Most relationships are ones where...
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One or both partners feel pushed away and would rather be doing just about anything than spend much time together.
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One or both partners can't talk about their problems without conflict, drama and hurt feelings and often try to avoid talking about problems completely.
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One or both partners do not get their needs met and feel frustrated and resentful that their partner isn't willing to give them what they need.
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One or both partners have lost most attraction and interest in sex, and are drawn instead to porn or the possibility of cheating.
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One or both partners have difficulty accepting and loving each other for who they are, and it often feels like walking on eggshells to be together.
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One or both partners have no interest in growing and would prefer to remain stuck exactly where they are.
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And this dynamic tends to get much worse with time, when partners move in together, or when they have children.
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This dysfunction is caused because a lack of polarity means lack of respect.
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And that means you need to learn how to respect your partner's needs, and your own needs, to polarize everything.
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Without polarity, relationships are almost certainly going to be dysfunctional. Conflicts will be common. Communication will be difficult. Needs won’t be met. Feelings will get hurt. This is all due to a massive misunderstanding about just how fundamentally different men and women are from each other. When men and women do not understand each other, they will not know how to communicate, they will not know how to meet each others needs, they will not know how to properly grow, and they will end up unknowingly disrespecting each other, over and over and not know how to stop it. They may also disrespect themselves and thus enable their partner to get away with their own disrespectful behavior.
A man disrespects his woman by not taking her feelings into account. A woman’s greatest need is to be cared for without her having to assert herself to get that care, and to feel safe, loved, and accepted to express herself vulnerably. That is why a man should always be leading, and leading in her best interest. If he isn't leading, then he isn't meeting his woman's needs. Leading with consideration doesn’t mean he will never do or say or tell her to do something she doesn’t like. But it means that he is always considering her. He is always putting her needs and feelings equal to his own. Because she is his equal. He is not superior to her, and he is not entitled to her submission. Thus he does not try to control her. A man should always be energetically giving his leadership to his woman as a gift. If he is trying to control her, he is energetically taking his woman’s submission. Unhealthy masculine leadership results in a loss of woman's attraction and an increase in conflict.
A woman disrespects her man by leading him in any way. A man’s greatest need is to lead, and have his leadership be received and be respected as a man. If a woman asserts herself, tries to manipulate him, asserts boundaries (telling him no), tries to teach/convince him (especially about his behaviors or intentions) then she is disrespecting him. She is telling him that she doesn’t trust him to lead and set boundaries in her own best interest when she tries to lead him instead of being vulnerable or expressing her needs without trying to get an outcome. A woman also disrespects her man by not submitting to his devoted leadership. Unhealthy feminine submission results in a loss of man's attraction and an increase in conflict.
A man disrespects himself by submitting to a woman’s leadership in any way. A man can only devote to a woman through his leadership. If he submits to her leadership, he is allowing himself to be energetically enslaved. He also disrespects himself by allowing his woman to talk to him with disrespect (leading, judging, blaming) without having boundaries and leading her out of that behavior. A man will not feel good in his body when he submits or doesn’t assert himself when his woman leads. A self-respecting man will honor that feeling and do something about it. Unhealthy masculine leadership results in a loss of woman's attraction and opens him up to be abused and taken advantage of.
A woman disrespects herself by submitting to undevoted leadership. A woman should only submit to leadership when she is being considered. If she submits to inconsiderate or controlling leadership, she is allowing herself to be subjugated. She also disrespects herself when she does not vulnerably share her feelings when her man is hurting her in some way. A woman will not feel good in her body when she submits to undevoted leadership or suppresses how she feels and stays silent. A self-respecting woman will honor that feeling and do something about it. Unhealthy feminine submission results in a loss of a man's attraction and opens her up to be abused and taken advantage of.
A man disrespects his woman by not taking her feelings into account. A woman’s greatest need is to be cared for without her having to assert herself to get that care, and to feel safe, loved, and accepted to express herself vulnerably. That is why a man should always be leading, and leading in her best interest. If he isn't leading, then he isn't meeting his woman's needs. Leading with consideration doesn’t mean he will never do or say or tell her to do something she doesn’t like. But it means that he is always considering her. He is always putting her needs and feelings equal to his own. Because she is his equal. He is not superior to her, and he is not entitled to her submission. Thus he does not try to control her. A man should always be energetically giving his leadership to his woman as a gift. If he is trying to control her, he is energetically taking his woman’s submission. Unhealthy masculine leadership results in a loss of woman's attraction and an increase in conflict.
A woman disrespects her man by leading him in any way. A man’s greatest need is to lead, and have his leadership be received and be respected as a man. If a woman asserts herself, tries to manipulate him, asserts boundaries (telling him no), tries to teach/convince him (especially about his behaviors or intentions) then she is disrespecting him. She is telling him that she doesn’t trust him to lead and set boundaries in her own best interest when she tries to lead him instead of being vulnerable or expressing her needs without trying to get an outcome. A woman also disrespects her man by not submitting to his devoted leadership. Unhealthy feminine submission results in a loss of man's attraction and an increase in conflict.
A man disrespects himself by submitting to a woman’s leadership in any way. A man can only devote to a woman through his leadership. If he submits to her leadership, he is allowing himself to be energetically enslaved. He also disrespects himself by allowing his woman to talk to him with disrespect (leading, judging, blaming) without having boundaries and leading her out of that behavior. A man will not feel good in his body when he submits or doesn’t assert himself when his woman leads. A self-respecting man will honor that feeling and do something about it. Unhealthy masculine leadership results in a loss of woman's attraction and opens him up to be abused and taken advantage of.
A woman disrespects herself by submitting to undevoted leadership. A woman should only submit to leadership when she is being considered. If she submits to inconsiderate or controlling leadership, she is allowing herself to be subjugated. She also disrespects herself when she does not vulnerably share her feelings when her man is hurting her in some way. A woman will not feel good in her body when she submits to undevoted leadership or suppresses how she feels and stays silent. A self-respecting woman will honor that feeling and do something about it. Unhealthy feminine submission results in a loss of a man's attraction and opens her up to be abused and taken advantage of.
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My marriage was dying because my wife and I didn't understand polarity
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And so we disrespected each other unknowingly and our needs went unmet
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But when I worked on polarizing myself into my masculine, my wife polarized naturally into her feminine, and all of our problems went away as if by magic!
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We stopped fighting.
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We became more attracted to each other.
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We felt compelled to do more for each other.
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Everything became easy and fun!
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Interested in transforming your love-life? Learn more about all of my offers to help you achieve your goal:
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MY BOOKS - These are great to start with if you think polarity may fix your love-life, but you aren't quite sure or have an extremely limited budget.
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1-1 COACHING - This is a great option if you have a few problems in your love-life that you need specific support with.
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MY GROUPS - This will help you transform your love-life better than most expensive courses ever could for a fraction of the price.
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MY COURSES - This is THE ultimate solution in the WORLD for rapidly helping you transform yourself and your love-life.
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Relationships become a complete disaster when polarity becomes reversed.
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This is when a man becomes feminized and a woman becoming masculinized.
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A feminized man does not lead, and he allows himself to be led/taught/judged by women. He has weak boundaries and weak leadership skills. He is uncomfortable telling a woman what to do, and is not in touch with his dominance. A dominant man leads because he knows he is naturally in charge. Just like a male salsa dancer knows he is in charge. A feminized man is out of touch with his dominance because he believes its wrong to be dominant, and he feels shame for it. He identifies with his ‘niceness’, and being a ‘good boy’ and possibly his inferiority, and doesn’t want to let those identifications go. But being dominant doesn’t mean a man is superior to a woman. It just means he is in charge. It’s not an entitlement, it’s a responsibility and a gift.
A masculinized woman leads a man to get what she wants. She tends to have stronger boundaries and asserts her needs and wants liberally. She doesn’t know or doesn’t care that she is disrespecting a man every time she tries to lead him to an outcome. She is uncomfortable being soft and trusting her man to provide and protect, and is not in touch with her heart and/or isn’t willing to express it vulnerably. A vulnerable woman submits because she knows she deserves to receive a man’s gifts and has no need to assert herself to get them. A masculinized woman is out of touch with her heart because she believes it is weak to feel, and/or weak to express those feelings vulnerably, and she feels shame for it. She identifies with her strength, her empowerment, her independence, and doesn’t want to let those identifications go. But being vulnerable doesn’t mean a woman is weak. It mean’s she is incredibly courageous. Vulnerability is a superpower.
And this is the current situation in almost everyone's love-life. Men who are too feminized, and women who are too masculinized. To one degree or another. Once I saw it in my own marriage, I began seeing it everywhere. The problem was rampant. But thankfully, I discovered that the solution to the problem was universal.
A masculinized woman leads a man to get what she wants. She tends to have stronger boundaries and asserts her needs and wants liberally. She doesn’t know or doesn’t care that she is disrespecting a man every time she tries to lead him to an outcome. She is uncomfortable being soft and trusting her man to provide and protect, and is not in touch with her heart and/or isn’t willing to express it vulnerably. A vulnerable woman submits because she knows she deserves to receive a man’s gifts and has no need to assert herself to get them. A masculinized woman is out of touch with her heart because she believes it is weak to feel, and/or weak to express those feelings vulnerably, and she feels shame for it. She identifies with her strength, her empowerment, her independence, and doesn’t want to let those identifications go. But being vulnerable doesn’t mean a woman is weak. It mean’s she is incredibly courageous. Vulnerability is a superpower.
And this is the current situation in almost everyone's love-life. Men who are too feminized, and women who are too masculinized. To one degree or another. Once I saw it in my own marriage, I began seeing it everywhere. The problem was rampant. But thankfully, I discovered that the solution to the problem was universal.
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Then I started teaching other men and women...
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And I realized that what I taught myself can be universally applied and can transform anyone's love-life if they do the work.
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I've helped perpetually single men and women get into serious relationships.
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I've helped men and women stuck in destructive relationships shift into healthy ones.
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I've helped men and women see their self worth, heal their traumas, and accept who they really are for the first time and thus become incredibly attractive to the opposite sex.
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I've helped men and women troubleshoot every dating and relationship problem imaginable instead of making mistakes which would have completely ruined their chances of it working out.
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I've helped men and women who have broken up with their partners get back together and make their relationship better than ever.
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I've helped men and women leave toxic relationships that will never improve no mattter what they do
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And that was only possible because of masculine and feminine polarity. If you have a problem in your love-life, polarity is the answer you have been looking for!
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Interested in transforming your love-life? Learn more about all of my offers to help you achieve your goal:
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MY BOOKS - These are great to start with if you think polarity may fix your love-life, but you aren't quite sure or have an extremely limited budget.
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1-1 COACHING - This is a great option if you have a few problems in your love-life that you need specific support with.
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MY GROUPS - This will help you transform your love-life better than most expensive courses ever could for a fraction of the price.
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MY COURSES - This is THE ultimate solution in the WORLD for rapidly helping you transform yourself and your love-life.
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Polarity is powerful because it is in our instinctual programming.
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It is not mental programming, it is not due to social conditioning, men and women are hardwired for polarity.
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The reason men need to give/lead/devote is because of their genes. The reason women need to receive/submit/be cared for is because of their genes. If we are not happy when we are not able to do these things, that’s not woundings either. That’s our instinctual programming telling us something is wrong, if only we knew how to listen! It’s our woundings that actually cover up this beautiful and complementary instinctual programming. It’s our woundings that keep us confused and unsure of what the truth of our nature really is. The truth is, a man needs to be masculine to thrive, and a woman needs to be feminine to thrive. Especially in a relationship together.
That is why you should not attempt to 'balance' your masculine and feminine energy. A healthy man or woman do not have balanced masc/fem energies. Masculinized women and feminized men are the ones who tend to be balanced. And that is a complete relationship disaster. Balanced men and women are androgynous and tend to have barely functional and low attraction relationships.
Whereas a healthy man and healthy woman look completely different from each other, and when they are together they have functional high attraction relationships. Healthy men and women have integrated energies. A masculine man is a very strong assertive leader. When he integrates his feminine he leads with devotion. Feminine integration allows him to give his love fully through his leadership. A feminine woman is a very soft follower. When she integrates her masculine she can be responsible for her feelings (vulnerable and contained) instead of spilling/dumping them onto a man, and can be responsible for her experience by flowing away from anything less than devotion. Masculine integration allows her to set her own inner boundaries and only allow herself to tolerate the best treatment from a man. Integration makes it possible for the disrespect to end, and both partner's needs to be met perfectly.
If this sounds too extreme, think about this: Giving as much respect and love as possible to your partner cannot ever be too extreme. And if a woman ever leads her man, she is not showing him respect. If a man ever doesn't consider his woman by leading her, he isn't showing her respect. Respect can never be too extreme. You should love and respect your partner as much as possible. To do that, you need to polarize yourself as much as possible.
That is why you should not attempt to 'balance' your masculine and feminine energy. A healthy man or woman do not have balanced masc/fem energies. Masculinized women and feminized men are the ones who tend to be balanced. And that is a complete relationship disaster. Balanced men and women are androgynous and tend to have barely functional and low attraction relationships.
Whereas a healthy man and healthy woman look completely different from each other, and when they are together they have functional high attraction relationships. Healthy men and women have integrated energies. A masculine man is a very strong assertive leader. When he integrates his feminine he leads with devotion. Feminine integration allows him to give his love fully through his leadership. A feminine woman is a very soft follower. When she integrates her masculine she can be responsible for her feelings (vulnerable and contained) instead of spilling/dumping them onto a man, and can be responsible for her experience by flowing away from anything less than devotion. Masculine integration allows her to set her own inner boundaries and only allow herself to tolerate the best treatment from a man. Integration makes it possible for the disrespect to end, and both partner's needs to be met perfectly.
If this sounds too extreme, think about this: Giving as much respect and love as possible to your partner cannot ever be too extreme. And if a woman ever leads her man, she is not showing him respect. If a man ever doesn't consider his woman by leading her, he isn't showing her respect. Respect can never be too extreme. You should love and respect your partner as much as possible. To do that, you need to polarize yourself as much as possible.
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You can have the dream relationship!
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But you have to want it badly enough. What is it costing you to stay stuck where you are?
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Most people never get the love-life they want, because it's easier to not do the work and stay stuck. And you might be one of them.
You can continue to stay where you are. You can continue to try to make your mediocre or nightmare relationship work as best you can. You can continue struggling, always wondering why it takes so much effort to communicate and make the relationship functional and enjoyable. You can continue to live with conflicts and unmet needs and a frequent sense of feeling disrespected and unloved.
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You can choose to change your life with one or more of my offers. You can learn more about why you are having problems in your love life, and get clear on what you need to do to solve it. You can transform yourself to be the man or woman your partner needs you to be, and then watch your partner reflect your change before your eyes. You can enjoy all of the peace, love, intimacy, and amazing sex that comes with a polarized relationship.
I have helped so many men and women get what they want out of their love life, so why not you?
I can help you get you back in touch with your heart and your body. I teach you to honor your feelings and how to properly act on them to create a devotional/submissive dream relationship. I do that by starting with communication, specific wording, to tap you into the right energy. Get you comfortable with it. Get you to trust it. Show you just how often you have been in the wrong energy. Get you to feel the difference between being true to yourself or not. I help men to feel their dominance and lead with it, and I help women feel their vulnerability and express with it. I will help you to push you through all of your fears and pain. So that you never need me or any dating / relationship coach ever again and you can live happily ever after with the man or woman of your dreams.
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Interested in transforming your love-life? Learn more about all of my offers to help you achieve your goal:
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MY BOOKS - These are great to start with if you think polarity may fix your love-life, but you aren't quite sure or have an extremely limited budget.
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1-1 COACHING - This is a great option if you have a few problems in your love-life that you need specific support with.
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MY GROUPS - This will help you transform your love-life better than most expensive courses ever could for a fraction of the price.
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MY COURSES - This is THE ultimate solution in the WORLD for rapidly helping you transform yourself and your love-life.
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